DIY Bday Numbers :)

I originally planned to make these numbers out of tissue paper. However, I quickly realized that, if made out of tissue they would not survive the journey in my car. So I started to think of alternatives and decided to use plastic tables covers instead, to give it a ribbon effect.

The inspiration for this video came from varies youtubers like Jennifer Noun, Ema Ally91, and Anthony Labat. If by any chance you feel like I skipped a step refer to the videos above I’m sure any of them can help. Best of luck 🙂


Opening Song: Martin Jensen feat. P.Moody – Si (Put Your Hands Up)
Closing Song: Pitbull – Baddest Girl in Town ft. Mohombi, Wisin


Q&A with Miss Dani Walker

This is the First half of a two-part interview done by Stephanie Silva, CSUDH Senior, feminist and creator of WeAreOpen as she interviews the creator of Pageant Access, Dani Walker. Miss Walker has been competing in pageants for over 12 years and in the past has held titles for National American Miss, the Miss American system and is currently holds the title as Miss San Diego’s Cities USA.



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Interviewing Johnny Rockets Director of Communications

The Interview 

Stephanie Silva, CSUDH Senior, feminist and creator of WeAreOpen interviews Johnny Rockets, Director of Communications and Digital/Social Strategy, Jericho Lopez. On how she successfully represents one of the largest Burger Restaurants with over 360 locations worldwide. In this interview, you get to learn about Mrs. Lopez as a person and get first-hand advice on how to succeed in the industry of PR/Media/Communications as a woman.

Jericho Lopez                                                                             Stephanie Silva




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The Struggles of Being a Woman Who Wants it All…

The idea of this topic came from one of my bosses. When one day during lunch I mentioned too-WOMAN-SUCCESS-facebook her that I was writing a blog dedicated to empowering women. And the next sentence out of her mouth was, “you should write about the struggles of being a successful woman and how it can intimidate men and ruin a relationship.”

As we may applaud the overall success of women’s rights we can’t deny, that with that success a new challenge has arisen. The social stigma of sex desiree-chris-married-site-003roles, where the lines of what defines a man’s and a women’s so called “roles in a relationship” have now begun to be rewritten due to our cultural evolution. Women are no longer just pursuing basic job titles. They are now chasing a better future for themselves specifically, one that does not depend on a man’s financial support.

Sadly enough though this drive isn’t always viewed so positively within a relationship most men seem to be intimidated or bothered by a woman who is more successful than him. Even more so sometimes the biggest critiques of this, is your own family. Who frowns at the idea that you can marry anyone less of your pay grade.

Though we cannot change the views of others we can, at least, ease the situation by staying humble. I feel the key to being in a so-called “unbalanced relationship” is by still allowing the man to feel like a man. Enjoy the fact that you don’t depend on him, but still make him feel as a valuable contributor to your relationship. Maybe let him pay for most dinners and hide your shopping splurges, but most of all make time for him. The key is just to find out what works for you two.

EHarmony’s advice website recently spoke out about this matter. They conclude that the 2 main reasons why successful women don’t have a relationsrelationship-goals.jpghip are because they are too uptight. (in my words) First they state that woman can’t let go of work, making the “man always feel like he’s bringing work home with him.”
Therefore, you are making yourself sexually undesirable with all that stress about work. Secondly, they say that it’s all about, “the attraction and not your success.” In other words you are boring and can’t hold a conversation that isn’t about something intellectual. I don’t know if I completely agree to these points, but it’s something to keep in mind.

In another advice website by Mellisa Lamson she gives 3 realistic pointers on how to have the best of both worlds a great relationship and a great career. And how they are all possible if you follow her 3 steps of; creating time, involving your partner, and setting longenhanced-31013-1409859286-11-term goals together. While relationships aren’t easy, they are possible with a little bit of work any woman can have it all.

A Few Tips on How to Dress Well

My friends always come to me for fashion advice.

So dedicate this one to them. 

1) Mix&Match

Pair up your clothes with brands and none brand items. For example, when going on a girl’s night out try mixing up your designer tumblr_loyp5n95mG1qafoebo1_500hundred dollar shoes with a twenty-dollar Chinese boutique dress. Or another great example is knowing what is worth splurging on. For instance, a great bra makes a huge difference on anything you wear. So don’t be stingy on those Victoria Secret Bras. However, other items like leggings or t-shirts do not need to break your bank so settle for the outlet stores or a swapmeet for those basic essentials.

2) Dress to your Size

Nothing is less attractive then a woman trying to fit into a size that is just too small for her. No one, but you cares about what size you wear. dress-for-your-shape-forget-the-size-style-my-style-tips-for-womenAll anyone will notice is how good or bad an outfit fits you, so make sure it’s the right fit. For example, I’m a curvy girl so low rise jeans are not my friends because when I sit I flash my butt to the world.

3) Know your Colors

We all have different skin tones so be sure to wear what is flattering to your complexion. A harsh tone can really make or break your outfit by mindymaking you look too dark or too pale. For this reason, I stay away from super bright colors because my skin is so tan I prefer earthy tones.


5 things you should know in your 20s

            As we get older we start to think more deeply on who we want to become in life. The “ideal self”, as psychologists would call it, is what you’d like to be. The self is who we want to become and the things we want to accomplish in life (

            However, sometimes it’s easy to lose track of what is truly important in life when outside sources start to distract you. Your 20s are the most influential time for your future. Its at this time we start living our lives. We have finally set a career path and some of us have even tied the knott. But with life being full of surprises it’s crucial to set standards for yourself. Here is my advice on how to make the best out of your 20s.

1.Value your Family

            Sometimes we get so self absorbed with what we want in life and where we’re going to go next that we forget to stop and appreciate the most valuable thing we have, our family. I never realized how much I had neglected my own family until I bothered to look for a picture with them. How was it possible that I had hundreds of pictures with my friends and only a imageshandful with my parents? None of us want to look back in life and say I wish I would have had more time with them. Our family is the core of who we are. Even with the good and the bad that comes with life, your family has always been there for you and it’s your job to be there for them. My biggest advice is make time for them. Organize a weekly dinner or brunch, send them a random text to remind them that you care, but most of all remember to tell them you love them every time you see them. My grandfather was a very educated and successful man, but even as a child he always taught me that family was the most important thing in life.

2. Don’t Settle

           This part is definitely the hardest to follow. For most of us being alone is something we fear, so we tend to settle rather than spend a night without someone to hold. But who cares? Enjoy life were in images-1our twenties. Go backpacking with your best friend, make time for your family, and make time for yourself. My biggest issue with settling down is not the idea of being with someone, but the idea of losing yourself in the process. So many of us have, in the past, sacrificed our goals or intentions in life in order to please or be with someone. Because maybe you didn’t go to the college you wanted or you didn’t take your dream job, or ,the most popular, your relationship cost you your friendship.I’m not saying it’s wrong, but if things in the end don’t work out for you two the only one who loses is you.

3.Be Positive

        The context in which you choose to view things is everything, so don’t play the victim and don’t be Mr. Negative. Think positively. Life is too short to dwell on bad things, because that’s images-3life. There’s going to be times we’re going to struggle to pay bills, times we dislike someone who we run into, and we’re definitely not going to have everything we want, but that’s life. You make the best of what you have and enjoy that you’re living. There’s a common saying in the Mexican culture that my aunt once taught me, it goes, “There once was a kid who cried because he had no shoes, but there was another who cried because he had no feet.”

4.Be Ambitious

          There is nothing wrong with wanting more out of life, so don’t let anyone tell you different. Everything that exist in the world started with an idea, a dream that became a possibility. So get images-5up and go after it. Be what you want and do what makes you happy.

5.Be Confident

         This is the key in accomplishing anything in life. You must be willing to believe you can do it and show it. Even the most powerful people are scared of something, but the key is to never show it. Just remember there’s a fine line between confidence and cockiness so stay humble. imgres-1

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Halloween is no longer slutty

Halloween. The one time of the year where it’s okay to dress sluty, right? Wrong.

As we, generation X, continue to grow, so has our taste in Halloween costumes. No longer are we dying to wear bunny ears, but instead most of us seek to find what’s trending within our culture, politics and films.

According to the US Today, the most trending costume within females this year was Harley Quinn. Harley QUnknownuinn is a fictional supervillain, known as an adversary of the superhero Batman as stated by Wikipedia. She is a badass in all sense of the word which is no surprise that woman would inspire to be like her.

I would credit the 2000 film Mean Girls to this cultural shift. While the film pokes fun at the typical American teenage girl’s life, it highlights many sad realities of being a girl. One major point being, that girls sexualize themselves during Halloween. The films opens up the audience eyes as they show a close up of a depressed father who can’t bare to look at his little girl dressed as a playboy bunny and a desperate mother who just wants to be socially accepted by her beautiful daughter.

While this scene is only about three minutes long, it opened a topic of conversation that, for a long time, had been socially avoided. That girls didn’t need to be provocative when dressing up. Since then, girls have opened their minds to the potential opportunities in choosing a character to dress as.

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Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I a shopaholic?’

                  This compulsive disorder has continued to grow throughout the years and tends to affect more people than you would believe.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to give in to the occasional impulse buy. I mean, we all enjoy shopping. However, the true problem occurs when you or someone you know becomes obsessive when it comes to shopping.

The irresistible desire to shop is known as compulsive buying disorder. According to a research by World Psychiatry, 5.8 percent of Americans are afflicted with the disorder, with women comprising 80 percent of the total number of affected individuals. Commonly known as shopaholics, these people are overly focused on buying and suffer from disruptive anxiety that can only be relieved by shopping.

              As the world of online shopping becomes more acceptable, we tend to splurge more without ever physically being in a store. According to, e-commerce is meant to profit over $279 billion dollars this year alone.

Shopaholics experience a “high”, not from owning something, but from the act of buying. Experts say dopamine, a brain chemical associated with pleasure, is often released in waves as shoppers see a desirable item and consider buying it. This burst of excitement can become addictive.

Recently the Huffington Post released an article asking questions to help identify if you are a shopaholic.

1.You have many unopened or tagged items in your closet

2.You often purchase things you don’t need or didn’t plan to buy

3.An argument or frustration sparks an urge to shop

4.You experience a rush of excitement when you buy

5.Purchases are followed by feelings of remorse

6.You try to conceal your shopping habits

7.You feel anxious on the days you don’t shop

If you find yourself saying yes to a majority to these questions then don’t hesitate to ask for help. You can start with searching self-help books, or like me, ask a friend to help keep you in check. And if you still find yourself shopping then consider therapy as an alternative, there is no shame in asking for help. We all have a struggle.

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