As we get older, our curiosity, needs, and wants increase and our sexual desires become more overwhelming. As women we were always taught that sex is saved for a relationship or marriage, but I don’t agree with that. What is the meaning of feminism if not to own your true identity as an individual?
Psychologist Pamela Maderson refers to this new era of change as, “Sexual Agency.” “Agency refers to an individual’s ability to behave in a way that will bring the outcome in which one desires.”
”When we talk about “Sexual Agency,” we may be talking about a complex group of rights, knowledge, skills, personal authority and/or abilities. The ability to give consent to participating in or declining a sexual activity and having your desires honored. The right to choosing how you define your sexuality, such as: gay, straight, bi-sexual, asexual. The ability to choose whether or not you want to engage sexually with a specific person, or in a specific place or even the time. The ability to choose safer sex practices or birth control.”
We are slowly seeing these changes becoming acceptable within our Western culture. Shows like Sex and the City, give us Miranda; a corporate, hardworking, and self-made woman who empowers her “Sexual Agency” with no shame. She believes in the power to act upon her desires and needs as a woman.
We also see this revolution within our most Iconic figures like Beyoncé and UFC Champion Rhonda Roussey. In a recent interview Roussey stated that she enjoys sex and, when preparing for fights, credits her amazing performance to her sexual tendencies.
The Queen Bee herself has even stated that,
“Women should own their sexuality. There is a double standard when it comes to sexuality that still persists. Men are free and women are not. That is crazy. The old lessons of submissiveness and fragility made us victims. Women are so much more than that. You can be a businesswoman, a mother, an artist, and a feminist — whatever you want to be — and still be a sexual being. It’s not mutually exclusive.”
Just because we’re women doesn’t mean we don’t have needs.