Why are you so dressed up? -_-

People always tend to judge or criticize me for the way I dress at times. They either love it or hate. I don’t understand what they fuss about.  It is not like I’m wearing anything out of the ordinary. I don’t walk around with fake eyelashes or a wig, but even if I did who cares.  I mean I am not dressing up like it is Halloween or skanky by any means. Yet, the simple pleasures I find in wearing my heels and doing my makeup always seems to come with backlash.

-1The way I dress in no means is ever meant to put anyone down. However, not everyone sees it this way. Some of those who are bothered by it, assume that I’m nothing more than a pretentious snob. So they won’t even talk to me at times. Others will ask the most annoying question, “Why are you so dressed up?”   😀 (Ohhh how I have learned to detest this.) But my answer is simple. I dress up, because I like the way it makes me feel, because I appreciate the respect I get from my elders when I look my best.

My entire life I was taught that one should wake up and put on their best, no matter what. Your entire personal life could be crumbling down; you might have just had surgery a few days ago. So what? You wash yourself off and get ready for the day. There is no need to wear your emotions for the world to see.

Some may think I’m crazy, but it is true. The clothes we choose to wear is determined by our -1mood and vice versa. In SpiritualBridge.org they go into detail on how our emotions are reflected through the clothes and colors we choose wear. Frumpy close is said to be signs of depression, and black colored attire is seen as more professional.  They even go on to recommend that the solution to fixing a bad day is to intentionally dress up more than you normally would. This act alone can help lift your spirits and inspire you to have a better outlook on the day.

“Our clothes make a huge difference to what people think about us – and without us knowing or in ways we couldn’t even imagine. People make their assessments in the first few seconds of seeing another; assessments that go way beyond how well you are dressed and how neat and tidy you might look.”                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    -Dr. Ben C. Fletcher

Several studies have shown that I’m not alone in my crazy mindset of caring about my attire. Appearance really does have an impact on others perception of you, especially in the work force.

For instance Psychotherapist, John Alpert, states in his blog that,

-2“When all else is equal, the person who is better dressed will get the job or land the promotion. Studies have proven […] when it comes to the job search, you can’t change where you worked, or where you went to school. However, you can change how others view you, based on how you look and how you sound. Therefore, dress can be a game changer in both professional and personal matters.”

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